Anonymous asked: So, I've heard that some asexuals masturbate, but do other asexuals masturbate to anything? I'm sort of worried that because I masturbate to images, I might not be asexual.
i am not an asexual who masturbates, so i have no idea how any of that works, but i think just because you’re using images of traditionally hot people to get off, it doesn’t mean you’re not ace. since you don’t experience sexual attraction, you’re just using an image to enhance whatever fantasy accompanies your physical stimulation to give yourself an orgasm. or is that off base? do our followers who do masturbate have anything to add?
Hey there. I’m an aromantic asexual with a bondage fetish. I’ve had this fetish my entire life so I believed there was no way I could possibly be asexual. However….I am not attracted to anyone. Within my little fantasies, there are also people! Here’s the kicker, though, none of the people are in detail and I do not focus on them. Basically, they are there to keep the “story” moving. I am also not sexually attracted to rope or tape or handcuffs or anything like that. My body reacts to the idea or feeling of being restrained, but I can get along without being tied up or having any real people involved….ever.
So, in answer to your question, YES! An asexual can envision specific things that actually turn them on. Themes, ideas, fetishes, etc. It all comes down to looking at a person and being sexually attracted to someone and wanting to be sexually active with that person (or people). But having a kink doesn’t mean you experience sexual attraction. It just means you might have a strong libido.